Forgive the Wicked…..

Hi everyone, hope you are all doing well – a little while ago I posted a personal blog entry titled “When I was 17” and a lot of you enjoyed getting a glimpse into my life, today I have some personal advice to share with all of you. Now judging from the title, yes it deals with betrayal, friendship, personal growth, positivity etc. So lets get on with the show…..

Everyone has that “one” or sometimes more than one individuals in their present, past lives that tried their very best to rock the boat and quite frankly “piss you off”. They attempted to do so by being too-faced, speaking behind your back, spreading rumours, bullying or just straight up RUDE. I have encountered many individuals in my past and have detected the presence of a few “pretenders” currently but I think I am able to detect it quickly due to my background in Anthropology as it is a requirement to be a good observer in that field!

I have had people lie to my face, spread rumours etc you name it – a lot of twisted s**t has happened to me and to make matters worst, I have experienced it with both family & friends (and at times co-workers). The point I am trying to make is gossip is everywhere, people LOVE to talk and most people are insecure in their friendships so much so that they resort to “gossiping” about you in order to gain some level of fame or value.

At the end of the day, what becomes of bad situations like that is up to YOU! If you dwell on the negativity, you’ll never be happy. You take the POWER AWAY from those who wish to hurt you by FORGIVING THE WICKED!! Know in your heart that everyone has both good and bad in them – I can be realistic enough to say I know I possess both as well HOWEVER it is very important to be able to detect the percentage to which one possess over the other. For example, 70% good vs. 30% bad.

Always remember that NO ONE (including oneself) is perfect, so let their negative, hateful comments or actions go and with that comes TRUE POWER! You are taking ownership of what affects YOU and in return you stating OUT LOUD that they have NO CONTROL over YOUR thoughts, actions, happiness etc.

When people see you UNAFFECTED by their actions, they get bored, they move on and always keep your guard because at the fundamental core – people do NOT change! So I leave you with this…forgive those who do not know better, who are tortured by their own insecurities and be mindful that they may actually admire you in some way due to their envy. The following quote sums it up perfectly!!

“The wicked envy and hate; it is their way of admiring” – Victor Hugo



7 thoughts on “Forgive the Wicked…..

  1. irina22m says:

    Great entry, made me think if this quote I recently saw. “Don’t be upset with people or situations, both are powerless without your reaction” – unknown.

  2. MelissaC says:

    Zenorah, this is such a great post. A few years ago, someone started a rumor that my dad killed himself. I heard about it from a text message, but at the time I hadn’t heard from my parents for a few days so I didn’t know if it was true or not. After finally tracking down my dad (he was just relaxing at the camp!), I was so mad about that rumor. PLUS people were messaging me condolences on Facebook and I had to explain that he wasn’t dead! It was so hurtful, but I can’t help but be amused that he truly shocked some people when they saw him out and about. 🙂

    • zenorah says:

      oh my goodness!!! i can’t believe people would do that to you! that is absolutely disgusting!! if i were your friend at the time and lived near you, i would kick some serious ass to defend you!! But i am sooo happy to hear all is well with your dad and that’s good ppl got shocked when they saw him, serves them right for gossiping!

  3. Beth says:

    Zenorah, I love your blog. You have so much useful info on here about beauty and life. This is my first post, because it speaks directly to me and what I have been going through recently. My question is, at the end you say people don’t really change who they are inherently. How do you come to that conclusion and are there exceptions. I would like to say that over time I can become more confident in my abilities instead of always trying to blend into the background. Any thoughts? Again, great blog!:)

    • zenorah says:

      Hi Beth, thank you so much for your kind words! And I am so happy you connected to the post because I too have needed to forgive some people in my life currently. And the reason why I say people don’t inherently change is because habit is the root cause to people’s actions. And in order for something to become a habit, it needs to be done in a repetitious manner. So you see, expecting someone to “change” is impossible – at the fundamental course “change” can only occur through evolution and there is no way one can prove that to another human being. At the end of the day, it’s best to surround yourself with good people who don’t need to wrestle back and forth with envy of you. Hope that helped =)

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